Feeling a little insecure? Learn how to strengthen your union.
Even the most rock-solid couples feel insecure about their relationships sometimes. As part of our Irresistible You survey, we asked readers to fill in the blank: “I have the most confidence in my relationship when my partner/spouse ___________.”
The top two most popular answers were “compliments me/tells me how he or she feels about me” and “really listens to me/gives me his or her full attention.”
So, how do you build confidence in your relationship? We asked our experts to weigh in with their best suggestions, and here’s what they had to say:
1. Get in the present.
On a daily basis, take time for yourself to clear your mind and set your intention for how you will be in your relationship. Repeatpositive affirmations that reinforce the feelings that you want to feel.
2. Get real.
Take stock of your relationship as it is and identify the wonderful things that you are already experiencing, as well as concrete examples of things you would like to improve.
Express gratitude for your blessings every day and know that you have the power to respond with love in all other areas and exercise your power to create a life that excites you. —Lisa L. Payne
3. Get over it.
Ask yourself why you have allowed your confidence to falter in this relationship. Is it possible that you sabotage your relationship with negative patterns of behavior driven by a little but loud voice that says you aren’t worthy of love?
Acknowledging limiting beliefs is important, but so is learning to let them go. —Lisa L. Payne
4. Get clear.
Clarity breeds confidence, while fear and doubt threaten your self-esteem.
See yourself in the relationship of your dreams and imagine all you want is possible. —Lisa L. Payne
5. Get engaged.
While this may be a side-effect of your newfound confidence, this step is really about engaging yourself in a commitment to create a life that excites you.
Make a declaration because you are worthy of having a loving and fulfilling relationship. Believe that you have the capacity to love and be loved. —Lisa L. Payne
6. Get serious.
Actions speak louder than words, so start making confident choicestha are true to your commitment and your vision.
Your confidence will soar and you will reap the rewards because you are stepping into your power and making your choices count.—Lisa L. Payne
7. Seek support.
Naturally, your biggest supporter in this relationship is your partner, so share your dreams and challenges with him or her.
Communicate the changes you would like to make and express your feelings and your intentions with confidence. —Lisa L. Payne
8. Avoid eye rolls and sighs.
Whenever I see couples responding to each other with eye rolls or sighs I give them a 50 % chance of making it. Why? Because it shows contempt. It is very difficult to respond openly or lovingly to someone who has contempt for you.
So, if open and loving is what you want from your partner, stop rolling your eyes. —Ashley Seeger
9. Express gratitude.
Before complaining to your partner about something, thank him for something he did for you today. By expressing gratitude, you alter your biochemistry.
One big benefit is that your posture, tone of voice and facial expression also change toward your partner. —Ashley Seeger
10. Touch each other.
Sex and sensuality are two different things and all relationships require them both. Contrary to popular belief, sensual touching does not have to lead to sex.
Prove it to yourself: Plan a playful and sensual date night with yourspouse that does not include sex. —Ashley Seeger
11. Exercise often.
This will not only make you feel better about yourself physically, but it will also improve your mood and help boost sex hormones.
Resistance training has shown to increase sex hormones while tightening those trouble spots. —Dr. Kevin Dobrzynski
12. Eat well.
Eating better food will clear your mind and boost your energy. When people go off diets or eat poorly, they often get down on themselves. This mental baggage can carry over into daily activities and relationships.
So, add fruit and veggies into your daily routine and skip processed foods. —Dr. Kevin Dobrzynski
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